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Along came a spider

September 10, 2012 Uncategorized Comments Off on Along came a spider

It’s hard to stop a spider if it wants to sit down beside you. Unless you are an arachnologist and have a distinct interest in eight-legged things, it’s likely that just like Miss Muffet, some of you will want to squish, run or scream.

Like spiders, people often do things without invitation. Rather than running, what would have happened if Little Miss Muffet had simply said: Hey I’m not totally happy about this arrangement; do you want to work something out?

Or, she could have said: You crossed a line. Please step back and respect my space.

Everyone has rules and limits that they put in place as a kind of safety guideline. These are called boundaries and they define who we are, and what we find acceptable. They’re a mix of physical, emotional and psychological needs that are tied into a unique set of beliefs, values and past experiences. The aim is to find out, and to let others know, what is permissible and what is not, and to know and respect how others may respond if the limits are crossed.

 Think of a boundary like a line on a ping-pong table. What you deem as acceptable lives on one side of the line and what others deem as acceptable lives on the opposite side. It’s your job to get to know what is okay and to be considerate of their needs, rather than meet your needs at all cost.  It’s never okay to step over, stomp or steamroll over someone else’s boundaries or frighten them.

It’s helpful to take into account the things that are likely to trigger unhealthy responses from both parties. To stop trouble brewing, be aware of how you are likely to express yourself. Pay attention to how others react and listen to their needs. Never underestimate body language, signs and signals. If you aren’t sure if what you are doing to someone else is acceptable, why not ask?

Be authentic and honest.
Take responsibility for your words and actions.
Respect differences.
Apologize for any harm caused.
Become passive or aggressive.
Stay, poke and push.
Leanne French  www.madltd.co.nz

Celebrate the Martinborough Town Hall Centenary

September 10, 2012 Uncategorized Comments Off on Celebrate the Martinborough Town Hall Centenary

Sunday 16 September 5pm – 7pm

Max Stevens and David Kershaw are the Masters of Ceremonies for the Martinborough Town Hall centenary celebration. The Mayor, Adrienne Staples, and MP, John Hayes, will arrive in vintage cars to a fanfare organised by former NZSO Horn player, Ed Allen. To mark the occasion a granite plaque has been donated by Robert Milne. Mr Milne has played the bagpipes for the annual ANZAC service held at the Hall for many years. This commemorative plaque, will be unveiled by Mrs Staples and Mr Hayes. There will be tasty finger food made by Providore, liquid refreshments, entertainment from MADCAPS and background music from Shane Cater.

Come along and celebrate this important milestone in the life of the Hall. A modest ticket price is being charged to kick off the massive fundraising required to ensure the Hall will be in good shape for the next 100 years.

Winifred Bull
Martinborough Town Hall Committee ? 

Wharekaka News

August 3, 2012 Uncategorized 1 Comment

Mrs. Charmaine Alpe of the Cross Stitch group shows Mrs. Mavis Thomas some of her work. A big thank you to the Cross Stitch group for coming to visit Wharekaka and bringing in their beautiful pieces of work to show Residents.

t’s been a mixture of Weather this month. Residents have been taking full advantage of the few great days we have had to get out in the sunshine and go on drives and outings. Many thanks to the volunteers that offer their time and cars to do this.

In the rainy cold days we have kept warm with Pilates, Thai Chi and exercises everyday.
Residents have enjoyed indoor bowls and planting bulbs in pots in the lounge these will brighten up the home when they begin flowering.

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Now you see me, now you don’t

July 7, 2012 Uncategorized Comments Off on Now you see me, now you don’t

Leanne French. www.madltd.co.nz
If you are a person who goes straight from the demands of work to the demands of home, and you feel a little frazzled, why not take a detour? Being unavailable from time to time in a relationship is part of good self-care. Imagine throwing on an imaginary invisibility cloak and aiming for a minimum of thirty minutes to yourself, for yourself, because you deserve it.

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Martinborough Junior Hockey – 2019 Results and Prizegiving

Our 1st XI team came so close to victory in their final of the A-grade competition against rivals, MIS Falcons.  Martinborough scored an early goal in the first half of the game and held their defence until MIS scored a late goal in the final 3 minutes to draw 1-1 …

Kahutara School Hockey Wrap-up

Kahutara School managed to enter a total of three teams in various Wairarapa Hockey Association junior grades played at Clareville Hockey Stadium this season, a mean feat for a school of our size.  The Kahutara Blue team played Tuesday nights in the 6 Aside quarter field grade. The team did …

Junior Rugby

Our 2019 JAB season has come to an end, we have had an another amazing season with some awesome results. 2019 saw MRFC have around 75 registered players each year our numbers continue to grow and we have some huge things in the pipeline for 2020. Congratulations to all players …

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