Hello from Martinborough Plunket

We hope you have been enjoying what is arguably the best summer in the best part of the country… .the Wairarapa. A lot of families will be enjoying soaking up the sun and water at our local pool which is having record numbers use it.

There are a lot of things happening in our little village over the next few weeks, and Martinborough Plunket will be there too, so mark your calendars. As you will surely know, the Martinborough Fair is the first weekend in Feb. As usual, in the town hall we will have our Mothers Room set up in the supper room. Tell all your friends who are coming from out of town this day if they need a quite space to rest, feed and change baby’s nappy or just relax, they can pop around the back of the hall as we have a space set up for getting away from the hustle and bustle of the crowds. There will even be hot and cold drinks. … Continue Reading

Library news

Wine – wonderful  stuff and so much of it about in Martinborough – thank goodness!  To support our many local wine producing businesses we have a big stock of books. 

The latest addition to our shelves is Wine grapes: a complete guide to 1,368 wine varieties, including their origins and flavours by Jancis Robinson, Julia Harding and Jose Vouillamoz.  … Continue Reading

Spring Music at First Church

Spring music at First Church Martinborough  –  As part of Martinborough’s Jazz week-end the Jazz Student Choir sung  in the church on Sunday 2nd September at 11.15am, and the following week on Sunday 9th September Cantate, a well-known ladies Choir from Wellington, will be performing  a lovely varied programme of music in First Church.   Entry Koha will be welcome

Along came a spider

It’s hard to stop a spider if it wants to sit down beside you. Unless you are an arachnologist and have a distinct interest in eight-legged things, it’s likely that just like Miss Muffet, some of you will want to squish, run or scream.

Like spiders, people often do things without invitation. Rather than running, what would have happened if Little Miss Muffet had simply said: Hey I’m not totally happy about this arrangement; do you want to work something out?

Or, she could have said: You crossed a line. Please step back and respect my space.

Everyone has rules and limits that they put in place as a kind of safety guideline. These are called boundaries and they define who we are, and what we find acceptable. They’re a mix of physical, emotional and psychological needs that are tied into a unique set of beliefs, values and past experiences. The aim is to find out, and to let others know, what is permissible and what is not, and to know and respect how others may respond if the limits are crossed.

 Think of a boundary like a line on a ping-pong table. What you deem as acceptable lives on one side of the line and what others deem as acceptable lives on the opposite side. It’s your job to get to know what is okay and to be considerate of their needs, rather than meet your needs at all cost.  It’s never okay to step over, stomp or steamroll over someone else’s boundaries or frighten them.

It’s helpful to take into account the things that are likely to trigger unhealthy responses from both parties. To stop trouble brewing, be aware of how you are likely to express yourself. Pay attention to how others react and listen to their needs. Never underestimate body language, signs and signals. If you aren’t sure if what you are doing to someone else is acceptable, why not ask?

Do
Be authentic and honest.
Take responsibility for your words and actions.
Respect differences.
Apologize for any harm caused.
 
Don’t
Become passive or aggressive.
Intimidate.
Stay, poke and push.
Bully.
Leanne French  www.madltd.co.nz